You make a choice to treat each relationship with care, commitment, and intention. Or you die alone with no one at your side. Which way would you rather have it?
You cannot solve the modern problem of differentiation without loving yourself first. Without believing you are capable of being yourself no matter what. Without believing you are capable of showing up for yourself and others. Without believing in your capacity to love. Without admitting how little you actually know about loving yourself and others.
You cannot solve the modern problem of differentiation by running away. You cannot solve it with fear. You cannot solve it with isolation.
If life were a puzzle, you could not solve it by throwing all the pieces on the ground and storming out of the house.
If life were an egg salad sandwich, you could not eat it by shoving it up your car’s exhaust pipe.
If life were a baseball, you could not solve it by hitting it. You have to coddle the baseball. Put a bib on it. Spoon feed it mashed peas and carrots. Hold it tight to your chest as you fall asleep, all the while whispering sweet nothings in its baseball ear.
If life were a bathtub, you could not take a bath by eating ten tons of spaghetti.
If life were a toilet, pooping on the seat would not solve your problems.
If life were a candle, melting the wax and eating it for lunch would not make your gas smell like lavender.
If life were a bagel, spreading jelly on it would not suffice. You must toast it. You must cut it into cubes. And blend it in a smoothie. And you must not drink the smoothie. You must let it grow stale on the counter, until it smells. Then you must throw it away. Good thing life is not a bagel.
Good thing indeed.